If you’re one of many Michigan parents currently preparing for divorce, you likely have a million thoughts running through your mind at any given moment. You might be confident that your children will be able to adapt to a new lifestyle; at the time, you might worry about encountering emotional, financial and logistical challenges along the way.

That’s understandable, especially since transitioning to single parenthood after years of shared parenting in marriage can be stressful on many levels. It’s a good idea to build strong support network from the start, particularly if you anticipate legal trouble regarding child custody, child support or visitation.

Starting over

Even if your spouse never really was too involved in doing things for and with the kids when you were married, it’s still likely going to take some getting used to when you begin life anew as a single parent. The ideas included in the following list may be helpful to you at this time:

  • Extreme fatigue never helped anyone. It’s critical that you try to get adequate amounts of rest and sleep so you feel able to function and be actively present to tend to your children’s needs.
  • Divorce can prompt many small changes in your daily life. It’s helpful to analyze your daily living plan and make adjustments as needed, such as deciding who will handle things your ex typically took care of around the house or yard.
  • Your financial situation is likely to change when you divorce. Will you need to get a new job or request child support?
  • Don’t hesitate to lay some new ground rules at home to better fit your new lifestyle. In fact, many Michigan parents see divorce as an opportunity to finally parent the way they want to, without having to seek a spouse’s approval.
  • You may also need to resolve child care issues, such as who will watch the kids when you need a sitter? Will you and your ex agree to call on each other as primary options in such situations or simply choose to enlist assistance from babysitters of your own choice?
  • Normalcy and routine are key factors to helping children cope with divorce. If your spouse keeps disregarding the terms of a court order, it can really throw your children’s daily life routines out of whack.
  • As a single parent, you’re definitely entitled to a social life. However, you might want to incorporate terms in your co-parenting plan regarding introducing your kids to new romantic partners or similar issues.

As you and your children build new memories together, you may experience some ups and downs along the way. Like most Michigan parents, you want what’s best for your kids. If a problem arises because you and your ex disagree on how to interpret that, you can seek legal support as needed to help you resolve the issue.